Let's talk about: Call Me By Your Name
On Boxing Day, Will and I were able to sneak out for a bit of cinema time and watched Call Me By Your Name on its release date in Australia. I had seen the trailer weeks before and was really keen to see it, particularly as we are big fans of Sufjan Stevens (who wrote two songs for it) and Italy, so it seemed like a given.
The next few lines might sound very cheesy but I haven't been moved that much by a movie in a very long time. It has been weeks now and I still think of it, listen to the soundtrack, read the book and watched it again in the cinema back in Munich.
While I was sitting in my comfy cinema chair back in Australia, watching the beautiful story between two people falling in love, surrounded by the always wonderful Italian landscape, I realized how special this movie was. The main actors are able create such a strong sensual atmosphere and chemistry with each other which made it feel very real and special. The movie is able to transport the great & exciting feeling of love and showed the many ways of vulnerability at the very same time, without highlighting but proving one important thing during the entire movie - love is love! Two human beings falling in love with each other and going through what those four big letters can bring with it.
I loved little moments, like the main characters (Elio) spontaneous dance moves, the glimpses of the amazing Tuscan house it was set in, the outfits (so 80s), the personalities of small characters/roles, the openness and generous characters of Elio's parents, the really fantastic soundtrack and countless dialogs.
It gave me so much to think about, for instance how mobile phones simply didn't exist (as the movie is set in the early 80s) and to see of what a difference that made. No constant possibility to check what the other person is doing or to send messages/comments whenever you wanted and expecting an instant response. In one scene Elio has to wait an entire day for a response from Oliver. I really enjoyed Elio's close relationship to his parents. There is one particular scene in the end in which the father speaks to his son [and its taken word for word from the book so I read it a few times as it was so heart-warming, beautiful and true.] I had to shed a few tears when I heard his words the first time and just thought that every sentence of it is true and how important it is to support your children in a very unconditional way...
A few quotes from the movie which I would like to remember:
“Look,' he interrupted. 'You had a beautiful friendship. Maybe more than a friendship. And I envy you. In my place, most parents would hope the whole thing goes away, or pray that their sons land on their feet soon enough. But I am not such a parent. In your place, if there is pain, nurse it, and if there is a flame, don't snuff it out, don't be brutal with it. Withdrawal can be a terrible thing when it keeps us awake at night, and watching others forget us sooner than we'd want to be forgotten is no better. We rip out so much of ourselves to be cured of things faster than we should that we go bankrupt by the age of thirty and have less to offer each time we start with someone new. But to feel nothing so as not to feel anything—what a waste!”
“I may have come close, but I never had what you had. Something always held me back or stood in the way. How you live your life is your business. But remember, our hearts and our bodies are given to us only once. Most of us can't help but live as though we've got two lives to live, one is the mockup, the other the finished version, and then there are all those versions in between. But there's only one, and before you know it, your heart is worn out, and, as for your body, there comes a point when no one looks at it, much less wants to come near it. Right now there's sorrow. I don't envy the pain. But I envy you the pain.”
“Is it better to speak or die?”
" You're too old not to accept people for who they are."
It is a movie for the heart and I highly recommend it.